Well it is a job, but it’s also a relationship. The two aren’t necessarily mutually exclusive. In the OP, the one person presumably has a job where they are working outside of the home. The other person’s job is to cook inside of the home.

In fact, thinking about it like a job might be even better because then you can set clearer boundaries, like “days off/vacations” from cooking.

In general, it seems like the stay at home spouse is expected to be “always on”, but people get burnt out and relationships get strained that way. People need more breaks and clearly defined delineations for that.

You sound like a pleasant individual

I work in a hospital. Had a very young patient die that way recently. I don’t work directly with the patients, but I am very tangentially involved in the process of determining whether or not an organ is viable for transplant. The case basically had me going “what the fuck”. They had their whole life ahead of them.

One of the minor hosts of Mythbusters died that way too.

The fragility of life is terrifying.

The only one I’ve really seen this happen with so far is avgn

Yeah it’s mostly fine for the most part. Just occasionally it gets to me. People describe it as such an immense pleasure that I wish I could experience something like that at least once in my life. Oh well.

Desire? I would say not really. Very occasionally yes and fleeting.

But more it’s like missing a sense. Image all of your friends and family talk about how amazing chocolate tastes. But you were born without a sense of taste. Because people talking about the taste of chocolate are everywhere around you and you’ll never get to know what it tastes like, it bothers you on occasion. You never crave chocolate because you can’t taste anyway, but you’d just like to know what everyone tastes sometimes.

Except replace chocolate with sex/relationships. It’s a bit more significant than chocolate because essentially all forms of media prominently feature sex/relationship. It’s ubiquitous. And many people’s sense of life purpose comes from the outcome of that (children). And man the way people describe what an orgasm is like, it sounds like freaking heroin or something. I’d like to just once be able to experience something that powerful and pleasurable. Most of the time I live with it and am unbothered, but occasionally it leaves me feeling really left out and at some times not even the same species.

I feel this. Getting there myself. Part of the problem is that I can’t experience sexual pleasure and I have a hard time experiencing sexual attraction. But I really wish I could experience what those endorphins feel like even once! But even doing it myself, it doesn’t work that way.

To my knowledge, I don’t seem to have any physical abnormalities. I’ve been to the doc for a checkup before there. Nerves just must not be hooked up right or something.

Idk…I’ve found throughout the years that there are increasingly greater and greater amounts of long-form content available on YouTube to watch. Of late, I’ve watched some Louis Theroux documentaries, some documentaries on abandoned facilities, and some real A&E and ambulance emergency shows. There is a ton of interesting content on there if you look for it. I guess I just find the number of streaming services to be too staggering to bother with. So I go with free alternatives like YouTube with an ad blocker and things like PlutoTV and tubi.

The only time I ever see a YouTube ad is when I watch a family member pull up YouTube on their phone. It looks literally unwatchable that way. There are so many workarounds to this issue that I don’t understand how people can tolerate intrusive ads every 2 seconds.

I guess what my ramble was trying to say is that I didn’t even clock it as blackface because it’s so “poorly done” that it didn’t even come across that way until I read the comment and then stared at it in confusion. I’m not saying that it “doesn’t count if AI does it”, just that it’s a confusing photo.

Is that what I’m supposed to be looking at? Does it really count as a racist caricature if it is just some sort of weird uncanny valley image?

I’m guessing you mean blackface. But the person doesn’t look at all black or even like blackface. There is just some weird tinting effect happening. It’s like if someone described what blackface is to a blind person…but while trying to describe it, they had a mouth full of marshmallows

Sorry for my ramble and I hope this isn’t offensive to comment. I’m just confused. Is it really even attempting to be blackface?

God, j would eat the shit out of whatever the fuck that food is rn. But it’s bedtime so I guess I’ll just go to sleep. :pp

But funny meme

I don’t know. I feel like I had that mentality for a while, actually. It led to an increase amount of background stress which would then increase exponentially when I would “fail”.

Letting go of that mentality helped me to be a lot more at peace. Don’t get me wrong, it still creeps back up from time to time. I’m only human, after all.

But life isn’t a series of fails and wins. Life just is. Events occur. Some bring us up a bit and some bring us down a bit. You can’t control everything about the universe. Things happen. Time passes. You do the best you can in life and see what events will unfold. Be gentle to yourself when negative things happen. You can’t control everything. You are a human being, not a robot. Not a deity.

Or maybe landing on a specific psych med helped me a bit too idk.

Yes I always hated the thought of inconveniencing people. But then I remember that I actually love helping other people. And so then others may actually feel the same way about helping me.

Really? This is wild. I’m in a hot part of the US and it’s 95F/35C and humid daily here. I’m honestly really surprised with how much AC blasts here that heating still takes up the majority of nationwide energy consumption.

How in the world does such a comprehensive article not include JIS? It looks like it was once included but then it was removed due to poor citations. Wtf why was it not added back? It is very distinct from Philips and if you use a Philips driver on a JIS screw, it strips the shit out of it.

JIS screws are denoted by a small dimple in one of the corners of the + on the screw.

I learned about JIS this year when I got my first motorcycle. Honestly maddening how similar they look.

Screws were stripped into fucking circles by the person who tried to fuck with one part before me.

I’ve not tried to use a JIS screwdriver on a Philips head, but thanks for the tip!

Damn that’s hardcore AF! Honestly, good for you! Takes some balls to do something like that when your caveman brain is going off with alarm bells.

My fingers and toes and nose would always stay cold in the winter, even if the rest of my body was so layered up that I was sweating. It’s a bit odd wearing a ski mask indoors and wearing super thick gloves indoors is not always feasible either depending on what you’re doing (eating, etc.). I compromised a bit with fingerless gloves, and it helped a bit, but not as much as I would have liked. And yeah eating foods with your hands just wasn’t doable that way.

Idk. I’m one of those people that is always too cold. I live in a hot climate now and it sucks major major balls for riding a motorcycle (just learned recently), BUT I prefer this environment in every other circumstance.