It can be messy and it can be complicated, but it really doesn’t have to be.

I know and bunch of people including myself who are very adult about their (romantic) long-term relationships. Those people tend to work hard in themselves and their relationships, especially in the first few years though.

Sure you had the right kind of people around you back then?

I like the saying “time that is enjoyed wasting isn’t wasted”, but it sounds like it wasn’t enjoyable to you back then…

Easy solution: Threaten immigrants with deporting them, actually deport half their families…the remaining ones will do anything just not to be deported. No wonder capitalists tend to fund right wing parties