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Maybe if they weren’t all about making money off loneliness they might be doing a bit better.
The dating app kinda reminds me of gambling. Gambling is selling the hope of being rich. Dating apps are selling the hope of finding a partner.
Grindr is the ultimate gamble, hahah I was telling me wife my blocklist grows every day. I had a guy solicit me for dirty socks, didn’t even want to buy them just wanted to trade one dirty sock for three clean ones… I had another guy call me an asshole for not responding to them. Not to mention the people who don’t read profiles.
They just throw quarters into the machine and hope one of their bets pays off.
Yesterday, I matched with 12 men. Only two messaged me.
Lmao she should have tried running an account for an average looking man
“Yesterday, I swiped on 1000 women. I got one match. She removed me. An above average day”
- why I’m not on tinder anymore.
Have you tried being 6’7"
Everything I’ve watched or read online seems to indicate that dating apps suck for an overwhelming majority of people so good riddance?
What I can’t figure out is what comes next. Singles events (at a bar for ex)? Meet up type events where your doing something with other single people? Friends try to set you up with someone?
I’ve been married for 10 plus years so I have no skin in the game but it’s an interesting topic to me.
My current strategy is to die alone
I’ve personally had luck with dating subreddits like r4r.
I’m too introverted for irl dating so it was the only remaining option for me.
Found my current girlfriend there and I couldn’t be any happier.
Nice!
I’ve been married for a long time too and we met on the greatest dating website of all time: Craigslist Personals.
You entered your gender, age, a written segment, and an optional photo. No algorithm, no matching. Everything written was searchable and published via RSS. All communication went through email. No app, no subscription, and the only ads were sex workers.
In the context of this article, it forced the user to engage by reading people’s blurbs instead of just swiping for brain chemicals like Candy Crush. You felt like you were talking the other humans and the website was just where you went to meet them.
If such a site were recreated today, users would want to run the RSS feed through a slop rejection filter.
My strategy is that I gave up on dating. I don’t have time for it. Dating apps were the only thing that made sense for me and I haven’t been on those in years. Years ago 90% of women’s profiles were scammers or OF models. I can’t imagine what it’s like now. I’ve already been married, divorced, and have kids. I make decent money, but how am I even supposed to be able to afford to date with pricing for everything being insane? I wouldn’t be surprised to find out a lot of people are just not bothering trying and focusing on the rest of life.
Yeah dating can be a hassle and if someone is ok with being single then why not? There’s not as much social pressunre to be in relationships as in the past.
HOW is this Possible? All dating Apps do is make it IMPOSSIBLE to Find a Real Person! How is that NOT a Winning Strategy in the “Find a Real Person” Industry?
it’s not because there isn’t a desperate need. it’s that they are predatory and make a hard thing fucking impossible, and have a vested interest in making it impossible and charging for the solution, but not a good enough solution to invalidate needing to keep using it.
“Monopoly fucks up the entire market, news at 11.”
I remember using MyYearBook back when it was called that (I think it was changed to something like MeetMe or whatever, last I heard), and had a fair bit of fun on that site when I was younger. It was chaotic, super broken, was kind of like a really bloated MySpace, and what really made it fun is that they incorporated a whole plethora of mini-games to match with people in fun ways.
It kind of seems like a lot of platforms now days, both for dating, as well as games want to restrict communications, if that makes any sense? Like in a lot of online games, you might not even be able to open a text chat, and can only communicate through pre-defined gestures. And dating sites seem to want to put abstractions like swiping and questionnaires before any dialogues take place. And maybe for good reason.
There’s just a kind of fun in things like the classic chatrooms that I miss I guess. Just make your profile, do some shitposting until people start dropping ASL’s into your DM’s, and go from there.
Chatroom style ones like Discord can still work okay except for the part where you gotta use Discord.
Online chatrooms restrict the depth of communication to have because of moderation.
Can’t monitor and police the world wide chat 24/7
If they are dying, I’d say nothing of value is lost.
As they should for good!
website has a persistent AI chatbot overlay, btw
easy avoid, for me
I guess back to Craigslist’s classified section 😆
Even the gay ones?!
Especially the gay ones. Can’t even hold the RNC without them crashing.
can we stop sharing this same demonstrably false shite 🤦♀️ it’s been thoroughly debunked at this point
Ain’t just a river in Egypt, honey.
And yet people are in denial about it being a hoax.
It’s always “oh Grindr went down in the city where the RNC held an event”. Why do people think Grindr has servers for each city and not a proper load balancing setup agnostic of the users locations?
Much more likely that cell towers get overwhelmed in that area. Or that they pull Grindr down in general. But the claim that always gets made is that they bring it down in the exact city where the convention happens lol
lol stay mad
Are they? All my friends in their 30s have more than one app. Or had it, when they were single.
What has really been dying for quite some time is “third spaces”. That’s what we need to get back really, beyond dating. Just plain socializing and enjoying togetherness.
The more people use them, the less they work. That’s kind of the whole model right?
They are inherently all flawed because they keep you away from the single only reliable way to date: growing your social circle.
Even if you match someone, that’s a single date where you may or may not continue to see each other. Whereas if you spend all that time and effort hanging out with your friends, getting to know people that are in your and their orbits, you are growing your social circle exponentially and exposing yourself to far more dating opportunities while looking like you’re not even trying. And even if it doesn’t work, you are still making being single more fun for yourself by having a rich social life.
Just spend that time reconnecting with old friends, hanging out with people from work or joining some club or class. That’s how to be successful dating. Specifically by not “dating”. To me dating is something that just happens naturally, you don’t need to go looking for it. Just be ready when the opportunity arises. Learn to spot them. Its a social skill like any.
Good
All of them being opened by a single money grubbing company, which has enshitified them to an accounting degree has not helped
accounting
squints eyes not sure if typo or not
Also opened instead of operated, so likely autocorrect.
Opened is probably meant to be owned.
And accounting is probably supposed to be acute.
And “grubbing”, grabbing.
Moral of this message: proofread your stiff. Uh stuff.
Bro didn’t even proofread his own username and y’all expecting him to proofread his posts lmao
Money grubbing is the correct term.
Money grabbing is a slightly bone apple tea thing.
